Thursday, January 11, 2007

am having to find somewhere new to live my soon to be ex husband hasn;t been paying the mortgage regularly and they want to forlose ,I am applying for a housing assosciation house every time I think things can't get any worse they somehow mange it.I talked to my inlaws today ,my MIL who is johns dads second wife was really nice and let me bitch to her ,she said John had told her it was all lovely and amicable she suspects he has anothe rowman down south,if he does then I feel dead sorry for her she has a lot of boring sex to look forward too.I intend to become a nun.Jane arrives tomorrow i will be glad of the company and someone to talk to its hard keeping a brave front up for the kids and harder still not slagging john off to them at the moment I culd happily stab him.how I am supposed to find a house when I can't even leave this one on doctors orders I am not sure I would like to be 6 months down the road in my life at the moment with the shitty bit behind me and a lovely bright shining futrure about to start.This broken ankle couldn;t have come at a worse time I feel trapped and unable to deal with things and because I am immobile I have nothing to do but think .I have just done all the washing which hasn;t een done since I was tken ill before xmas the kids are tidying up the house ready for jane .JOhn wont come up while Jane is here because he " doesn;t like confrontation " i am wishing him nothing but harm

15 comments:

sparky said...

Jesus Mum, you are having problems . The deal on the house is kind of shocking . Is there anyway YOU can keep the house maybe in a settlement with your husband and you keeping the kids there. The house must be worth some good money . Real estate in Britain isnt cheap. You would have to refinance it I suppose or come up with the back mortgage payments (likely a better idea) and keep the current mortgage in effect . If thats not doable is there equity in the house at least that you can get some of so you have some money for a new start iife? Don't forget you have the dog to deal with too ( I'm sure you know that). Getting a flat might be hard with a large dog in tow, at least it is here . Well Mum, I don't envy you your problems and in all sincerity I hope things work out for you down the road , Allan

Anonymous said...

I know it is easy to say, but things will get better. Deal with one thing at a time, dont try to juggle all your problems at the same time. They are easier to handle that way, tackle the mortgage people one day, solicitor the next etc . . . At the moment it will look like the whole world is against you Alex, but it does become easier . . I've been through it myself and survived. All the best, you know most people are rooting for you

Orbie/\;;/\ said...

"All the best, you know most people are rooting for you"

Damn Straight we are!!!!!

Anonymous said...

most??? Find me someone who isnt, and I'll thump 'em! Preferably John ;)

schell said...

Mum, I don't even know what to say without sounding trite or like a greeting card. I'm thinking of you though, and hoping you manage through all this.

The Broards said...

what Schell said, Mems

Anonymous said...

-All the best, you know most people are rooting for you

Even me, and I don't root for many. Times are shitty but people like you always come out the winner somehow.

- blu

Anonymous said...

You could always relocate to Cornwall!
I hope everything works out all right for you Alex, I don't know what else to say; other than I'm here on IM if you want to bend my ear any time. There's a sofa here if you want a break any time.

Anonymous said...

Keep your chin up Alex, it will get better even if it seems like it won't. I havnt been around because I have computer problems at home but I am thinking about you.

Anonymous said...

Clearly,we all feel the same. ^ ^ I'm glad that Jane has come over to be with you. You'll be able to get it all off your chest.... and I actually think that helps a bit.
Try making a doll to stick pins in.....Might give you a bit of satisfaction. Very best wishes to you and the boys, Alex. x x x

Anonymous said...

I'm having very strong feelings of anger and hatred toward John these days. I have this overwhelming urge to do something. I just watched this great episode of south park where the kids pay a hooker to rub their parents' toothbrushes all over her mouth to infect them with herpes. Any crack whores in your neighborhood?
-P

Brenda said...

thinking about you meme and hoping for better days ahead for you.

Anonymous said...

what we need is a hitman.

Anonymous said...

It's five days since you last blogged, Alex.
Where are you? We need to hear from you.

UrbanStarGazer said...

Sorry, Mum. I wish there were something I could do to help! If there is, let me know. I like Porky's idea. Rub John's toothbrush in your buttcrack or something.